Back in July, I felt August breathing down my neck, urging me to get busy. In years past, August was when all summertime relaxation screeched to a halt for the preparation of home-school lesson plans. And then, school began. The fall home-school feeling had been trained into me from decades of bending to the task. In late July, it pulled me toward long days with my children, studying together. It was time to prepare for the fall!
For twenty-eight years, this was the routine. This was God’s plan for our particular family. Aiming young hearts, souls, and minds toward wisdom, I bent over precious heads, sharing priceless moments as they studied around the table.
But now, the task is complete. There are no lessons to prepare, no schedules to arrange. I am no longer a home-schooling mother. My youngest started college this weekend.
Now my six energetic and precocious children are all grown.
After the last graduation party in May, early summer was a bittersweet time. I cried frequently. One career had ended. Another was beginning. My baby girl, now grown to young womanhood, had been launched, my children all raised. Then, I didn’t know I’d have to mourn again in August and now in September.
Four years earlier, when child number five started his last year of homeschooling, the end had loomed ahead of me, stark on the horizon. At that time, I had felt as if my purpose for living would be over when my task was complete. Once I had raised, reared, and educated these children, from the standpoint of biology, my life’s work would be done.
I had reproduced. I had raised offspring who could support themselves. I was done. Kaput.
The thought was depressing. But God had a better idea.
After having a crowded home of busy children for thirty years, our youngest was my sole student for the last four. While she worked, I wrote. God put it on my heart. It wasn’t my idea. I ran with it. By then, I had been writing bible-study material for three years. I branched out. I tackled fiction.
I had to learn to balance fiction and schooling. The first semester I failed. Then I adapted.
Side by side, my daughter and I worked through the next four years. We studied together, working on joint projects, watching educational lectures, reading material, discussing content and ideas. We traveled for tutoring or group classes. Silently and studiously, we sometimes worked on separate floors—joint scholars.
Part of me wishes I had sat and stared at her for four years; but I didn’t think she would enjoy that. She concurs. The writing kept me from obsessing and suffocating.
Through it, God showed me his plan for life’s next season. I can still be used in his kingdom, even though I’m finished raising my large family. Fancy that! My first articles are being published now, and an agent has the manuscript for one of my novels. It’s a good transition.
I am now in a new season. I am learning to yield to the God-ordained seasonal change. Children grow up too fast. I am heartbroken that the childrearing/child-educating phase is over. Yearning for days gone by, I grieve. I loved educating my own children. It’s a tough transition.
I’m glad I made the necessary sacrifices. Glad I cut out the extraneous activities that would have prevented our success. Glad I put their education ahead of my own pursuits. Glad I taught them to think, to be curious, and to pursue excellence. Glad I shaped their lives.
And now I turn, glad to discover God’s plan for the next season. Yes, there is life after homeschooling. What wonders await me up the road? If it’s as glorious as the season I now leave, God’s plans will be wondrous indeed!
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens” (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV).
I think I hear Elton John singing “Circle of Life” somewhere in the house.
I thought I heard singing!
Ahh! I love this one! As long as we live and breathe, God has a plan for us and wants to use us here or He would take us home!! You are an amazing scholar, and I know it shows in your work. I love your novels and can’t wait to see them published, but I’ll have to wait until God opens the door! Hurry up, God! I’m ready!!! But, I know Your timing is always BEST!! So, I yield my will to Yours.
Thanks! We await God’s timing, don’t we! God’s purpose in our lives, no matter what we do and no matter our age or season of life, is on my heart right now.
“Show me your ways, O Lord, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.” – Ps 25:4-5
This is what you have been living out for me & other moms who are still in the throes of home-schooling our children.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us – the joys, tears & laughs! I LOVE your infectious laugh!
Thanks for your encouragement & wisdom!
Thanks for teaching us that we won’t be kaput on earth until Jesus calls us home!
You’re welcome, Rita! You’re right! We’re not kaput until Jesus calls us home.:)
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens” (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV).
What an appropriate verse, Melinda! Yes, I so well remember that “empty-nest” grief! It is hard no matter what road the family’s life has taken. BUT GOD…. Yes, he has a plan! Jeremiah 29:11 says: “… I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Yea! Thank you, Jesus!!!
Good verses both you and Rita shared! The empty nest is difficult for everyone, no matter how your children were educated. For a homeschooler, it’s also combined with retirement angst after being forced out of a position you love or having your position cut due to your age. It’s sort of a double whammy, because it is also your full-time job, and you’re particularly fond of your fellow workers.
Such an encouraging story for me to read today. I just sent my twins (youngests) off to full-day Kindergarten, and it will be an adjustment, this new season. Your words remind me that seasons keep changing, that I have many more to go, but God will go with me (even before me). Thanks for giving me a glimpse of the bigger picture today.
It is so true, Stacie! The Lord has already scouted ahead and laid the roadwork. He planned in advance for all the good works he intends for you to do (Ephesians 2:8-10). What does God have planned for you with those busy little twins in Kindergarten now?