We long to be known. In fact, we yearn for someone to understand, to be on the same page, to “get” us. This is the desire of our hearts. The aching wound of estrangement from others often drags us down. We are lonely. A simpatico relationship rarely exists.

We’ve all experienced moments when someone dear to us seems ignorant of a significant truth, an intimate fact about our lives. They should be well-acquainted with this inner working of our hearts and minds. Instead, though this may be our own mother or husband or best friend, we find ourselves having to explain yet again. We slog through the same conversation we’ve had twenty, fifty, a hundred times. Sigh.

At these moments, it’s tempting to throw up our hands in despair, to harden our hearts to the reality that this will happen again and again. Why bother?

But wait. Pause. Think about it.

Haven’t we done that very thing to others? Haven’t we been so self-absorbed that we’ve missed significant events, truths, revelations, and changes in the lives of people we love? Yes. Unfortunately. We have indeed. Sigh, yet again. This is the reality of human life.

There is only One who truly knows us, One who is intimately acquainted with all the inner-workings of our hearts and minds, One who comprehends the twists and turns of our lives and how we arrived where we are. It is He, the omniscient and omnipresent One. All along, he’s been on site, on the ground, in our skin, aware of our thoughts, focused on our hearts, with us. Emmanuel. Such a relief!

“O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar…. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O LORD, you know it altogether” (Psalm 139:1-2, 4 ESV)

“For we do not have a high priest (Jesus, the Son of God) who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:15-16 ESV).

Countless times, when other weak and similarly flawed human beings have let me down, this has been the solid fact that has put me back together again. When I pull away to lick my wounds over the reality that, once more, I’m not understood, I reapply the medicine of this truth to the wound:

Jesus knows and loves me completely. In him, I have all I need. I can draw near to him in confidence, perfectly known, precisely understood, and completely loved.

There is no barrier between us and Jesus when we’re in Christ. We have encouragement, comfort from his love, fellowship with his Spirit, and the totality of his affection and sympathy, according to Philippians 2. Held up by this reality, we are enabled to love others. We need not turn on them or give up when they don’t know us at all or seem to care.

Because Jesus knows us and loves us, we have all we need.

How has this fact held you together when no one else understood?


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