If you’ve ever relocated, you know how the experience dislocates us from past routines, identities, and spiritual practices. We humans are creatures of habit and community. As we establish patterns of life, the longer we do them, the deeper grows the groove, thereby normalizing the practice. Likewise, the longer we’re in fellowship with a group of people, the more we feel part of that “tribe.”
Establishing a daily time with the Lord, the custom of weekly church attendance, or a regular workout occurs most readily if we follow the same habits, rituals, and locations. Soon we find these experiences become a natural part of our lives. We feel at home, and, thus, we’re more likely to continue what is now familiar.
Relocating, especially cross country or overseas, tears up everything.
Your job is new. Your role in church is gone. In fact, you have no church. Your friends are far away. Your circle of coworkers and colleagues is not present. Your city is new. Your usual place to sit quietly and meet with God is far removed. Your lifestyle has changed. Your doctors aren’t present. Your new grocery store must be found, your new pharmacy sought and prescriptions moved.
All that is familiar is far behind you. Nothing is the same but you, and you’re no longer sure who you are in this new place without your regular props. As you establish new practices, you often find you’ve gone a few days without doing what used to be routine. I discovered today that I can’t recall if we’ve prayed before any meals in the two months since we arrived, a regular occurrence in our lives for over forty years. That shocked me. What does that say about our hearts? Mindfulness of my blessings and what is necessary and profitable each day is needed.
When we relocate, we may feel invisible, as if even God himself is nowhere near. Like the Israelites of old, we may believe that God does not see us. “Why do you complain, Jacob? Why do you say, Israel, ‘My way is hidden from the Lord; my cause is disregarded by my God'” (Isaiah 40:27 NIV)?
The Israelites felt this in their Babylonian captivity, far removed from home and forcefully and violently relocated to a foreign land. Even during a relocation we chose from one side of our country to another, we also can feel that our way is hidden, that God doesn’t see us. But feeling is not fact.
No, our way is not hidden. God is a God who sees. He is the anchor.
“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom” (Isaiah 40:28 NIV).
Having been studying through Isaiah for about a year now, I “just happened” to be on these passages right now as I’m dissecting the sensations of dislocation that still remain. Clearly, my way is not hidden from God! He knew I would need this reassurance right now in this new place, far from all that is familiar.
The Creator of the earth is even at the farthest ends of the earth, even where I now live, even in this city filled with millions of people where I know only a few living souls. No matter how far I’ve gone, he is still there. He understands us in our new surroundings and sees us just as clearly as ever. He never sleeps or grows weary of watching and caring for us, even when we forget to pray at meals.
He understands, even if no one else does. So do not be dismayed. Hope in the Lord. He is with you even to the end of your days and beyond for all eternity.
“He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.”
Isaiah 40:29-31 NIV
Hi Melinda,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts in your beautiful blog post “Dislocated But Always Seen”.
Yes, sure we’re controlled by habit and community to a high degree.
I have been relocating a couple of times in my life, and I can relate to what you write in this blog post.
You’re right, feeling is not a fact.
Modern culture is a feeling-culture where facts play a little role, which is kind of scary.
Yes, God knows our ways and us better than we do ourselves.
God bless,
Edna Davidsen
It’s great to interact! We really do live in a feelings based culture. Good point! Thanks for taking the time to comment, Edna.
My pleasure, Melinda, it’s a great blog you have here, take care.
Thank you for this message. My husband and I relocated last September. A very big change for us. A wonderful reason to locate to be near our son, daughter-in-love and first grand baby. We knew there would be obstacles, but our motto is “Bloom where we are planted.” We are showing God’s love to others in our new location. 🙂
That’s a wonderful outcome of a relocation – having a grandbaby and family near! I’m so glad it’s going well for you! Thank you for commenting, Melissa!
I have mixed feelings about relocation. In sixty years I’ve only relocated about four times. All voluntary. So I loved every bit of it because it was my choice. Lots of new things to discover.
One time we moved from Jackson Hole to Idaho, and we lived in the back of our ski and bike shop, sharing the same bathroom with customers. That was fun! Especially because it was connected to our bedroom.
For me, the Lord’s Presence seems to be more heightened in transitions. I guess that’s because I depend on Him more.
I’ve never been relocated against my will so I don’t know what that’s like, but I’m sure it’s not the same.
We travel a lot and routine is the one thing that does mess me up.
I must admit… I do like routine. So I try to establish new ones right away. Knowing I will eventually return home certainly helps me adapt to my temporary places.
Have you recently relocated? If so, from where to where?
Yes, we relocated two months ago, clear across the country from north of some parts of Canada up in Michigan to south of some parts of Mexico into southern Texas. Quite a switch! My autoimmune disease makes transitions difficult, as I have a lot of medical care and doctors and records to transition. Each move has been a time when the Lord has really worked in our lives. And it causes growth. Still, it’s personally disorienting to me. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I wouldn’t want to share my bathroom with customers!
Hey Melinda,
Relocation is tough, just like many transitions in life! But you are absolutely right no matter where we are God always see us!!
Blessings, Misty
Thanks for commenting, Misty. Nice to hear from you!
Transition is definitely tough – adjusting to the newness of everything. So good to know that God looks out for us no matter what!!
Thanks for commenting, Brittany!
Thought provoking post Melinda
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for commenting, Tony!
I grew up a military kid and am quite familiar with moving. In fact, it used to be my comfort zone. But now I’ve lived in the same building and city for the longest of my life – and we’re getting ready to move. And now, I’m anxious about it… because I know what’s coming. AND I think as we get older it gets harder – walking to into other people’s already established worlds. You put it well, that we tend to feel invisible when we are new – and to those around we often are.
For me, we believe we are making the move that aligns with God’s calling for us – so I am trying to rest in that peace.
Well put! We really are invisible to those around us when we’re new. You’re so right. One of our strategies has also been to remember how God brought us here. We know we’re where he wants us. I hope you find a place of fellowship and comfort quickly, Christina. The Lord is with you.